Monday, April 17, 2006

Realisation Part 2 : Understanding

Have u ever put yourself in another person's shoes and try to feel the way he does? why he has acted the way he did?

If he is happy, we could fell the joy he is going through.

If he is sad, we could feel the grief he is in.

If he is in trouble, we could see from his point of view and understand his actions.

And just feel for him without affecting ourselves.
Just by being more mindful and aware of our surroundings and situation, not just ourselves, but the people close to us and people around us in general, we could bring two person closer and avoid many blames, misunderstandings and miscommunication. If the other person is having some difficulties and needed advice, we are be able to give suitable ones. We do not question much but can feel what a person is going through.

There's a story illustrating this.

A scenario of a child and mother. Mother, by nature are very protective and caring. Everyday the mother ask her child how's everything going on, whether we're happy or sad. The child, on the other hand shares only during happy times and whenever the child faces trouble, he keeps it to himself. When asked by the mother, he hesistated in telling. As time goes by, the child was irritated by his mother's questioning and treating it as a treat to his privacy. He feels sad everytime he has to dig out the sad moments to share with the mother. He stops sharing the happy nor the sad times. At the same time, the mother feels sad because the child no longer wants to share anything with her. A distant forms between them. Neither party is happy.

Based on this story, if only the child could put himself in his mother's shoes, he would know that she's just being caring about him, trying to understand her child's situation and see how she could help. However it seems, the more she helped, the worse the situation.

On the other hand, if only the mother could feel the pain the child is undergoing, she wouldn't have kept forcing the child to dig his own wound. She could have encouraged the child to be strong to accept whatever the challenge he's facing.

Read the unspoken. Read in between the lines. we'll undertand better about ourselves and the people around us.

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