Perhaps love is a balance
Sometimes bitter sometimes sweet
It's a cycle, it's there to help us grow
When the sun is out, the rainbow appears
Beautiful sight, refreshing breeze
If we could put through the rain and pain
Perhaps love is a test
When problems arise, we figure out the solutions
There is no right or wrong answers
Only compliments and forgiveness
Patience and acceptance
Perhaps love is a guidance
When we are lost and lonely
When we are confused and coiled
The memory of love will bring us home
The memory of love will see us through
Below is a song by John Denver that was written for his wife. The song says it all.
(Placido Domingo)
Perhaps love is like a resting place
A shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort
It is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble
When you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home
(John Denver)
Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come closer
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
(Placido Domingo)
Oh, Love to some is like a cloud
To some as strong as steel
(John Denver)
For some a way of living
For some a way to feel
(Placido Domingo)
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
And some say love is everything
And some say they don't know
(John starts joined by Placido)
Perhaps love is like the ocean
Full of conflict, full of change
Like a fire when it's cold outside
Thunder when it rains
If I should live forever
And all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you
(Placido Domingo)
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
(John Denver)
And some say love is everything
Some say they don't know
(John starts joined by Placido)
Perhaps love is like the ocean
Full of conflict, full of change
Like a fire when it's cold outside
Or thunder when it rains
If I should live forever
And all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you
J
Showing posts with label Realisation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Realisation. Show all posts
Friday, March 18, 2011
Wednesday, September 03, 2008
The Secret of Sharing Information
These days we could find information pouring from almost everywhere, be it your neighbour, your friends, your colleagues, the internet, the newspaper... you name it.
Most of the time, people are talking about something, intending to share the information that they know about. And many a times, I myself was caught not finishing my sentences/topic and cause a whole lot of 'boos' from my friends who are listening. They will go like ' why are you saying halfway and not finishing the other half?" Most of the time, I don't tell much of things unless I am pretty sure of what I am going to say.
Oh well. There is something interesting here.
The truth is: I don't know exactly the reason why I am doing that but what I know is after talking halfway, something unconcious will snap in me and say "Hey, are you sure you want to share that piece of information?" And I will argue a while within myself before I decide whether to continue or not.
I am sure there are more people who are in the same dillemma as me, or at least I have caught two person who is having the same habit as me. Haha.
I came across this short article that was passed to me in the buddhist yahoo groups and how true it was.
Have a read:
The Secret of Sharing Information
In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, " Do you know what I just heard about your friend ?" " Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. " Before telling me anything, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."
" Triple filter ?"
" That's right," Socrates continued. " Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the Triple filter test.
The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true ?"
" No," the man said, " Actually I just heard about it and…" "All right," said Socrates. " So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good ?" " No, on the contrary…" " So," Socrates continued, " You want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left : the filter of usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me? " " No, not really." " Well," concluded Socrates, " If what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all ?"
Now, don't you think it's a good practice to filter our speech?
Jen
Most of the time, people are talking about something, intending to share the information that they know about. And many a times, I myself was caught not finishing my sentences/topic and cause a whole lot of 'boos' from my friends who are listening. They will go like ' why are you saying halfway and not finishing the other half?" Most of the time, I don't tell much of things unless I am pretty sure of what I am going to say.
Oh well. There is something interesting here.
The truth is: I don't know exactly the reason why I am doing that but what I know is after talking halfway, something unconcious will snap in me and say "Hey, are you sure you want to share that piece of information?" And I will argue a while within myself before I decide whether to continue or not.
I am sure there are more people who are in the same dillemma as me, or at least I have caught two person who is having the same habit as me. Haha.
I came across this short article that was passed to me in the buddhist yahoo groups and how true it was.
Have a read:
The Secret of Sharing Information
In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, " Do you know what I just heard about your friend ?" " Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. " Before telling me anything, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."
" Triple filter ?"
" That's right," Socrates continued. " Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the Triple filter test.
The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true ?"
" No," the man said, " Actually I just heard about it and…" "All right," said Socrates. " So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good ?" " No, on the contrary…" " So," Socrates continued, " You want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left : the filter of usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me? " " No, not really." " Well," concluded Socrates, " If what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all ?"
Now, don't you think it's a good practice to filter our speech?
Jen
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Life is fragile
Second piece of death news of someone that is related to me in a way or another...
Everyday we hear news of death... but we are not affected unless the person is someone that we know.
I wasn't affected until I found out which daniel it was. It is Daniel Teoh. Gasped. I know him. Though not very close, but he is someone we will always greet each other and chat when we bump into each other in IMU. One of the few BPharmers that I know. He is a bubbly, happy, friendly, helpful guy.
The piece of news made me look into life even more deeply. And it confirm once again what i have learnt that life is unpredictable, nothing is permanent but death is certain. These are some of the truth that we have to accept once born into life. When there we come, there'll be day we'll be gone. It's just the time factor.
Everything changes every seconds. We don't know what will happen next. All we could do is to cherish all we have now esp the people we are close to and never take things for granted. Hence my previous post.
It's indeed sad and grieving to know someone we know passed away. But life has to go on. There's no point fighting against the fact of life and blaming god for the cruelty of death. Life is just a physical phase of a person. When the physical part of it is lost, the memory of him is still alive. The memory is something we could keep in our hearts. Life goes on but we remember him. We learn from him that we need to appreciate life and the time we have now.
May he rest in peace and be born into a better plane of life.
Jen
Everyday we hear news of death... but we are not affected unless the person is someone that we know.
I wasn't affected until I found out which daniel it was. It is Daniel Teoh. Gasped. I know him. Though not very close, but he is someone we will always greet each other and chat when we bump into each other in IMU. One of the few BPharmers that I know. He is a bubbly, happy, friendly, helpful guy.
The piece of news made me look into life even more deeply. And it confirm once again what i have learnt that life is unpredictable, nothing is permanent but death is certain. These are some of the truth that we have to accept once born into life. When there we come, there'll be day we'll be gone. It's just the time factor.
Everything changes every seconds. We don't know what will happen next. All we could do is to cherish all we have now esp the people we are close to and never take things for granted. Hence my previous post.
It's indeed sad and grieving to know someone we know passed away. But life has to go on. There's no point fighting against the fact of life and blaming god for the cruelty of death. Life is just a physical phase of a person. When the physical part of it is lost, the memory of him is still alive. The memory is something we could keep in our hearts. Life goes on but we remember him. We learn from him that we need to appreciate life and the time we have now.
May he rest in peace and be born into a better plane of life.
Jen
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Impressions
I used to like the idea of being a tiger under a pig's skin. Now although i still buy that idea, but at a different price. I would prefer a tiger under a dog's skin.
I realised these kind of thing slowly becomes a part of a person when it's done too many times, which i don't think anyone would fancy the idea of being a pig at all. Skin changing process takes time, effort and patience.
What i meant by skin here is impressions.
The impression we give others is analogical to the skin on our body. It is the first important organ that could be seen well by others. Impressions work the same: it is the first important mind set that is set in others.
And why is impressions so important?
First, it is the main source of attraction. If let say a restaurant appear dirty, messy and unkept, would you still go in and try their food eventhough they claim that their food is clean and delicious? If a person appears confident, assertive, and smart and you are a boss building up a management team for a high fly company, would you not hire him? If a girl is refined, well-kept, pleasant, polite and beautiful (to most guys), would you not be attracted to ask her to be your friend or even your girlfriend?
Welcome to the real world.
Impressions are like a travel passport. Without it, you can't go anywhere. The food in the restaurant might be very very delicious, but people are turn off right away by the sight of it. Although you might say they are being denied their own opportunity to try the best sanwich in town, but people wont bother as there are millions of good food out there. And I would say, the impression the restaurant gave others is denying themselves a chance to prove that their food is delicious.
Going for an interview and winning a job is very much depend on the impressions you gave the interviewer the first 15 minutes you are with them. The tiny little actions you do tells a lot about you as a person. The way you knock the door, the expressions on your face, the way dress up, the way you walk, sit and talk all plays an important part in sketching the impressions they put on you.
A scenario: If you walk into the room and before you say anything, you tripped over the chair and the files in your hand are now scattered on the floor and you clumsily pick them up and realise you missed out your most important certificate... this does not give a very good impression, does it?
Creating a good impression is a passport for people to know you more. This is called the attraction. If you appear so unrefined OR your name has been tarnished so badly by others, do you think others would still have interest to know you more eventhough you might be perfect inside?
Not giving a good impression to others is our own loss because we are denying ourselves the opportunity for others to know more about our good. It's our responsibility to build this good impressions and keep improving them. You will never know how long this first impression will last!
I realised these kind of thing slowly becomes a part of a person when it's done too many times, which i don't think anyone would fancy the idea of being a pig at all. Skin changing process takes time, effort and patience.
What i meant by skin here is impressions.
The impression we give others is analogical to the skin on our body. It is the first important organ that could be seen well by others. Impressions work the same: it is the first important mind set that is set in others.
And why is impressions so important?
First, it is the main source of attraction. If let say a restaurant appear dirty, messy and unkept, would you still go in and try their food eventhough they claim that their food is clean and delicious? If a person appears confident, assertive, and smart and you are a boss building up a management team for a high fly company, would you not hire him? If a girl is refined, well-kept, pleasant, polite and beautiful (to most guys), would you not be attracted to ask her to be your friend or even your girlfriend?
Welcome to the real world.
Impressions are like a travel passport. Without it, you can't go anywhere. The food in the restaurant might be very very delicious, but people are turn off right away by the sight of it. Although you might say they are being denied their own opportunity to try the best sanwich in town, but people wont bother as there are millions of good food out there. And I would say, the impression the restaurant gave others is denying themselves a chance to prove that their food is delicious.
Going for an interview and winning a job is very much depend on the impressions you gave the interviewer the first 15 minutes you are with them. The tiny little actions you do tells a lot about you as a person. The way you knock the door, the expressions on your face, the way dress up, the way you walk, sit and talk all plays an important part in sketching the impressions they put on you.
A scenario: If you walk into the room and before you say anything, you tripped over the chair and the files in your hand are now scattered on the floor and you clumsily pick them up and realise you missed out your most important certificate... this does not give a very good impression, does it?
Creating a good impression is a passport for people to know you more. This is called the attraction. If you appear so unrefined OR your name has been tarnished so badly by others, do you think others would still have interest to know you more eventhough you might be perfect inside?
Not giving a good impression to others is our own loss because we are denying ourselves the opportunity for others to know more about our good. It's our responsibility to build this good impressions and keep improving them. You will never know how long this first impression will last!
Friday, April 11, 2008
Of sufferings and Karma
I was practicing on injecting a mice on its lateral tail veins and it felt so painful to see their tails being pricked, especially when the needles did not successfully deliver the solution into the veins. At the end of the practice, all I see is a tail that has gone blue black. Felt awful for them. But i have done it for a good purpose of research to improve the efficacy of drugs, for the benefit of humankind.
I asked a friend of mine who is very knowledgeable in Buddhism to explain to me regarding karma that i would generate from my actions.
He told me a story instead.
" Once a nun living alone in the cave was raped by a robber. So when she came for the teachings, some monks prevented her from sitting with the Sangha, saying that she broke the precepts. At this point do you think she did?"
When this matter was brought to the Buddha, he asked the nun. "Did you will for this to happen?" No. "Did you enjoy it when they did it?" No. "Did you feel happy after that?" No. "Then please sit with the Sangha. You have not broken your precepts."
Enlightening.
Jen
I asked a friend of mine who is very knowledgeable in Buddhism to explain to me regarding karma that i would generate from my actions.
He told me a story instead.
" Once a nun living alone in the cave was raped by a robber. So when she came for the teachings, some monks prevented her from sitting with the Sangha, saying that she broke the precepts. At this point do you think she did?"
When this matter was brought to the Buddha, he asked the nun. "Did you will for this to happen?" No. "Did you enjoy it when they did it?" No. "Did you feel happy after that?" No. "Then please sit with the Sangha. You have not broken your precepts."
Enlightening.
Jen
Friday, November 02, 2007
Realisation Part 12: Choices. The Choice Is Ours.
Life is unpredictable. Things change. For better or worse.
Relationships never stays. They evolve. For better or worse.
Friendships never remains the same. They become stronger or weaker.
Feelings by mind or by heart
Actions by mind or by heart.
Intentions by mind or by heart.
Laughter heard aloud or in silence
Tears drop in silence or aloud.
A tear of happiness or a tear of sadness.
Laughter in public or in private
Tears in private or in public.
A tear of joy or a tear of sorrow.
A smile in a heaven of pure joy and bliss
Or a smile in a hell of cunning lies and pretenders.
Silence of peace or disharmony
Patience of calm or anger
Tolerance of willingness or by force.
A stare of love, a stare of hatred
A word to construct, a word to destruct
A choice to make that forever stuck.
With Metta,
Jen
Relationships never stays. They evolve. For better or worse.
Friendships never remains the same. They become stronger or weaker.
Feelings by mind or by heart
Actions by mind or by heart.
Intentions by mind or by heart.
Laughter heard aloud or in silence
Tears drop in silence or aloud.
A tear of happiness or a tear of sadness.
Laughter in public or in private
Tears in private or in public.
A tear of joy or a tear of sorrow.
A smile in a heaven of pure joy and bliss
Or a smile in a hell of cunning lies and pretenders.
Silence of peace or disharmony
Patience of calm or anger
Tolerance of willingness or by force.
A stare of love, a stare of hatred
A word to construct, a word to destruct
A choice to make that forever stuck.
With Metta,
Jen
Friday, October 12, 2007
Realisation Part 11: Unconditional Love
Nine Emperor Gods Festival begins today. The road in front of Tow Boo Keong Ipoh had started to get jam-packed since morning. One side of the road became the temporary parking space for visitors and temporary stalls were build on the other side to provide space to sell the ‘ong khu’, flowers and incenses. People were bustling about with one hand carrying a bundle of incense and some others holding a stack of holy papers to be burnt. The older generation were sitting and waiting patiently in front of the performing stage for the opera show to start.
A girl and her dad walked pass the front entrance and there were three men performing some ritual acts. Mystical I thought, as I watched them walking passed the group of performers. They proceeded towards the praying area and searched for a nice spot on the first row of tables. The dad was happy to find a clear spot, not the most strategic but good enough to offer the ‘sou thou’, ‘ong khu’ and flowers to the gods. Being a Buddhist by default and receiving great influenced of Taoism since many generations ago, traditional festivals like this is hard to escape.
As a filial daughter, she helped him light up the incenses and followed him to pray to the Nine Emperor gods to seek for blessings, protection and well being. It took only a while to finish paying respect to all the gods. She took a rest at the edge of a pillar while he has his hands washed before asking for ‘chien’. She remained there for sometime while the dad went on to ‘qiu chien’. The girl appeared to have stomachache or something similar as her arms were wrapped tightly around her stomach. She became restless and perspired profusely. Crooked lines showed on her forehead. She squatted and moaned a little. Her face showed that she was in pain. Oh, life is full of sufferings.
After about 5 minutes of involuntary rapid hand and head movements, she went up to the dad to ask to leave early. Since there is only one more ‘chien’ left, she waited for another minute that seems like eternity. By the time the dad came over to her rescue, she was already sitting on the floor with her head between her knees. The dad tried to hold her up, but she was too weak. He held her up again and she fell. Again and again. A man who was praying nearby hurried to help and dragged her out of the smoky temple. The girl was feeling extremely dizzy, views blurred and almost collapsing. She didn’t know what went on until she was seated on a cold metal chair. Out of nowhere, few men came and helped to massage her to keep her consciousness. One lady who was selling towels in the stalls even offered a brand new towel to cover her from the chilly wind.
She remained subconscious and weak. Some suggested that the man massage the head, some aunty suggested massaging the shoulder. Some massaged the back. Finally she vomited brown liquid on the floor and requested for a toilet. Since she was only half conscious, few ladies held her into the toilet but only two were left inside to hold the vege-like fragile figure of hers. It is difficult to even hold up the head what more the whole body. The dad went to bring the car in despite the number of people and exhibitions there. By the time she came out, she was so weak that she couldn’t even walk. Thanks to these strong men they carried her into the car and she was finally lied down on the cushion.
The dad’s love is so great that it is incomparable to anything else. The dad must have been so worried. It is touching to feel the unconditional love showered upon his little girl. It is even more touching to be the girl. Thanks dad. I love you. May the people who helped be well and happy always. You guys have filled the world with LOVE. These good seeds you sow will soon bear their sweet fruits. Sahdu!
Monday, July 16, 2007
Realisation Part 10: The art of transforming anger
Picture speaks louder than words. Our life can be represented by a graph. I experienced the art of transforming anger with mindfulness today. Identify, embrace, understand and transform. Just some sharing of my ups and downs i went through today. Enjoy~
Jen
Jen
Thursday, June 07, 2007
Realisation Part 9: Slowing down
*Life's the most beautiful of all out there, slow down and have a look around, there are much things not to be missed~
How many of us actually noticed these words at the end of this blog each time you read? No, i don't. Scrolling all the way down to the page is not my habit and if I do, it means I had not been reading the blog for ages. I hit the bottom of the page just now and I saw these words. These words are there all the time, but I never noticed them often.
Looking at these words reminds me about what I told Casper two weeks ago. I was telling him about how quality of life can be deteriorated with the increasing speed of life. About my life being so fast that I hardly have time to enjoy the cooling breeze caressing my face or the beautiful stars in the sky gazing at me at night or just sit down and watch the kids play. Life has passed by so swiftly and I hardly noticed the changes around me, the changes in others and changes in myself. Things that I once look into its details has left at its macro view and gross judgment. I really had missed so much.
After going through almost 4 months of tip top madness made me realized while I gain experience, knowledge and ideas through the madness, I lose something more important in life. I lost the sight of the beauty of mother nature. I lost the sight of the beauty of silence and solitude. I lost the sight of the beauty of thoughts, care and love. I spend lesser and lesser time with myself and more and more time on others and matters. The mind is always so preoccupied with endless thinking and ideas which often makes me more absent minded than ever.
In life, we always need to reflect upon ourselves for us to go further. Life has been too fast for me. It's time to slow down and reflect. A moment in life will only come once; once we lose it, it'll never come back. I can't afford to lose too many of those scarce moments. It's time for me to cherish them more. Have you been cherishing yours too? If not, now is the time. :)
p.s: The writer here has only been back home for 3 days out of her 38days of holidays. She just got back home again today. She will really spend the remaining 4days of holidays wisely before the madness begins again on Monday...
p.p.s: Although the theme of this blog is living in the present, the author can also sometimes go off track :p Am working on going back on track.
How many of us actually noticed these words at the end of this blog each time you read? No, i don't. Scrolling all the way down to the page is not my habit and if I do, it means I had not been reading the blog for ages. I hit the bottom of the page just now and I saw these words. These words are there all the time, but I never noticed them often.
Looking at these words reminds me about what I told Casper two weeks ago. I was telling him about how quality of life can be deteriorated with the increasing speed of life. About my life being so fast that I hardly have time to enjoy the cooling breeze caressing my face or the beautiful stars in the sky gazing at me at night or just sit down and watch the kids play. Life has passed by so swiftly and I hardly noticed the changes around me, the changes in others and changes in myself. Things that I once look into its details has left at its macro view and gross judgment. I really had missed so much.
After going through almost 4 months of tip top madness made me realized while I gain experience, knowledge and ideas through the madness, I lose something more important in life. I lost the sight of the beauty of mother nature. I lost the sight of the beauty of silence and solitude. I lost the sight of the beauty of thoughts, care and love. I spend lesser and lesser time with myself and more and more time on others and matters. The mind is always so preoccupied with endless thinking and ideas which often makes me more absent minded than ever.
In life, we always need to reflect upon ourselves for us to go further. Life has been too fast for me. It's time to slow down and reflect. A moment in life will only come once; once we lose it, it'll never come back. I can't afford to lose too many of those scarce moments. It's time for me to cherish them more. Have you been cherishing yours too? If not, now is the time. :)
p.s: The writer here has only been back home for 3 days out of her 38days of holidays. She just got back home again today. She will really spend the remaining 4days of holidays wisely before the madness begins again on Monday...
p.p.s: Although the theme of this blog is living in the present, the author can also sometimes go off track :p Am working on going back on track.
Monday, January 01, 2007
Realisation Part 7: Happy 2007 ~
First of all let me wish everyone a very happy new year~! New year is here again...hehe...so how did u guys dived yourselves into the new year? oh well, i did it by counting down in front of the comp, online chatting with many friends...those who had chatted with me few hours ago should know..more than 10 active msn windows and im still online now*.. :p
As i was gleefully greeting many of my friends a happy new year and receiving streams of smses wishing me happy new year, i know and i realise, there are many who are actually not happy at all at this very moment im typing here. Some may be crying tearfully at the loss of their loved ones**. Some may be hiding behind their bedroom doors still looking at the scar of their past hurts**. Some may be faking a smile to hide the depression in their hearts**. Some may be still recovering from the anger of being exploited like a slave and had just resigned from the job today**. Some may be putting up a happy face despite still holding on tightly to a grudge formed long ago in the past**. Some may be wetting their eyes missing someone**. These are the few people i personally met and had in touch today...
Of course its undeniable while so many people are in their own grief, their are also many who are actually enjoying themselves. Some are enjoying themselves in some private hideouts***. Some are shaking their heads and butts off in some discos. Some are happily chatting away on the internet. Some are having huge celebration with their friends waiting for the countdown.
And some doing the more neutral ones...
Some may be sleeping now..hehe..as it was suppose to be the way it should..keke..(healthy lifestyle, but im still awake now.. :P) Some may be reflecting over their previous year and thinking over a new resolution for this new year.
Some may be rushing to finish up their assignments, especially those had played too much during the long holidays.
And some, like me, writing a post for the blog..
After reflecting for a moment, i realise how lucky i am, and how lucky most of us are. Life is really short and there is no time to frown. The 2 deaths of those close ones of my frens and one myself in such a short time shows how short our life is, and how fragile our life is. Just like a candle, once 'Phoof~!' and there goes the light. Likewise, if life is not guarded well enough, it'll also 'Phoof~!' just like that. I realise how important it is to live our life happy, to be satisfied with the things given to us as well as things that are not given to us. I suppose things always happen for a good reason. Cherish everything that's given to us, treat both the good and bad the same for blessings often come in a disguised form. Like my friend just told me just now, if we don't know the unhappy, then how to be happy? If u had not tasted the bitterness, how do u appreciate sweetness? Let go of things in the past.. Forgive those whom had hurt you because, holding on to the grudge hurts not the others, but you urself. Forgiving someone who had hurt u for so long and so deeply is never an easy task, but the liberation felt after being able to let go, is more than words could descibe.
Dear readers,
Good luck , Good health God bless you :)
Wanna know some of my new year resolutions? We shall count how many times it's broken for this year compared to last year! So there goes....
1. Sleep earlier. Catch the beauty sleep! Uh, ignore the time of this post..
2. Not to procrastinate. Ahem..ignore the * below.
So u guys have new year resolutions too? hehe...hope u guys will be succesful in acheiving them la!
If life is a game, i wish u will be winning always.
If life is a journey, i wish u will be walkin on on roses.
If life is a rainbow, i wish your days will be bright always.
If life is a joy, i wish you will smile always.
If life is in blue, i wish the sparkle in the stars will spark u up :)
That's my wish for you. May everyone be well and happy this year. :)
Metta,
Jen
* i am supposed to do my holiday assignment u know! ahh..the first new year's resolution to be broken. :p
** For my dear fren, a physical body may lose its life but the memories remains alive in your heart. Let it spur you to cherish more of those who are still living today. May you and your family be strong and well. Take care my dear friend.*hugz*
** For those who had been hurt deeply in the past, it's time to let go the past and start anew. Don't let the past sadness kill the present happiness. Leave behind the hurt and guilt but take along with you the lessons you learnt. Bring happiness into the new year. May you be well and happy.
** For those who are in deep depression, look at the positive side. While some things may seemed fated that way, the destiny is in your hands. Purify oneself, do some good and say a prayer. May u be blessed in this new year. May you be well and happy.
** For those who are still holding a grudge, it's time to let go. Don't let the past grudges ruin your present happiness. Forgive them, and forgiving is a way to free yourself from self torturing. Youll understand the meaning of forgiveness once u give it. May you be well and happy always.
**For those who are missing someone, familiarity breeds contempt. Distance makes our hearts grow fonder. Having a person to miss is a blessing. So cherish those moments of missing. May you be well and happy.
***ahem, you know who u are, you havent told me the location..I'm curious, faster tell me..hehe :P
As i was gleefully greeting many of my friends a happy new year and receiving streams of smses wishing me happy new year, i know and i realise, there are many who are actually not happy at all at this very moment im typing here. Some may be crying tearfully at the loss of their loved ones**. Some may be hiding behind their bedroom doors still looking at the scar of their past hurts**. Some may be faking a smile to hide the depression in their hearts**. Some may be still recovering from the anger of being exploited like a slave and had just resigned from the job today**. Some may be putting up a happy face despite still holding on tightly to a grudge formed long ago in the past**. Some may be wetting their eyes missing someone**. These are the few people i personally met and had in touch today...
Of course its undeniable while so many people are in their own grief, their are also many who are actually enjoying themselves. Some are enjoying themselves in some private hideouts***. Some are shaking their heads and butts off in some discos. Some are happily chatting away on the internet. Some are having huge celebration with their friends waiting for the countdown.
And some doing the more neutral ones...
Some may be sleeping now..hehe..as it was suppose to be the way it should..keke..(healthy lifestyle, but im still awake now.. :P) Some may be reflecting over their previous year and thinking over a new resolution for this new year.
Some may be rushing to finish up their assignments, especially those had played too much during the long holidays.
And some, like me, writing a post for the blog..
After reflecting for a moment, i realise how lucky i am, and how lucky most of us are. Life is really short and there is no time to frown. The 2 deaths of those close ones of my frens and one myself in such a short time shows how short our life is, and how fragile our life is. Just like a candle, once 'Phoof~!' and there goes the light. Likewise, if life is not guarded well enough, it'll also 'Phoof~!' just like that. I realise how important it is to live our life happy, to be satisfied with the things given to us as well as things that are not given to us. I suppose things always happen for a good reason. Cherish everything that's given to us, treat both the good and bad the same for blessings often come in a disguised form. Like my friend just told me just now, if we don't know the unhappy, then how to be happy? If u had not tasted the bitterness, how do u appreciate sweetness? Let go of things in the past.. Forgive those whom had hurt you because, holding on to the grudge hurts not the others, but you urself. Forgiving someone who had hurt u for so long and so deeply is never an easy task, but the liberation felt after being able to let go, is more than words could descibe.
Dear readers,
Good luck , Good health God bless you :)
Wanna know some of my new year resolutions? We shall count how many times it's broken for this year compared to last year! So there goes....
1. Sleep earlier. Catch the beauty sleep! Uh, ignore the time of this post..
2. Not to procrastinate. Ahem..ignore the * below.
So u guys have new year resolutions too? hehe...hope u guys will be succesful in acheiving them la!
If life is a game, i wish u will be winning always.
If life is a journey, i wish u will be walkin on on roses.
If life is a rainbow, i wish your days will be bright always.
If life is a joy, i wish you will smile always.
If life is in blue, i wish the sparkle in the stars will spark u up :)
That's my wish for you. May everyone be well and happy this year. :)
Metta,
Jen
* i am supposed to do my holiday assignment u know! ahh..the first new year's resolution to be broken. :p
** For my dear fren, a physical body may lose its life but the memories remains alive in your heart. Let it spur you to cherish more of those who are still living today. May you and your family be strong and well. Take care my dear friend.*hugz*
** For those who had been hurt deeply in the past, it's time to let go the past and start anew. Don't let the past sadness kill the present happiness. Leave behind the hurt and guilt but take along with you the lessons you learnt. Bring happiness into the new year. May you be well and happy.
** For those who are in deep depression, look at the positive side. While some things may seemed fated that way, the destiny is in your hands. Purify oneself, do some good and say a prayer. May u be blessed in this new year. May you be well and happy.
** For those who are still holding a grudge, it's time to let go. Don't let the past grudges ruin your present happiness. Forgive them, and forgiving is a way to free yourself from self torturing. Youll understand the meaning of forgiveness once u give it. May you be well and happy always.
**For those who are missing someone, familiarity breeds contempt. Distance makes our hearts grow fonder. Having a person to miss is a blessing. So cherish those moments of missing. May you be well and happy.
***ahem, you know who u are, you havent told me the location..I'm curious, faster tell me..hehe :P
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Realisation Part 6: H.A.B.I.T
I had just finished my killer physio paper and finally have my time and urge to write. This topic pops into my mind a week ago while i was halfway struggling through my exam preparation.
HABIT. A five letter word to illustrate a pattern of action done repeatedly until it became a behaviour done without concious attention or effort1,2,3. Some of the habits came naturally like the para-functional habits but there are also other habits which came through our constant similar method of doing things.
Since it is an act that become part of our behaviour, it may or may not require a long period of time to estabilsh a certain habit. Each time when we do something, a fraction of memory of way we did it will be stored in our cerebral cortex. When the same action is done repeatedly, it reinforces our brain to establish as the 'method' of doing the action. So after sometime, it became a habit.
Actually, the word habit is already self-describing. Did u notice the word is spelled as HABIT?
It forms from BIT of every repeated actions.
After a prolonged exposure, it became ABIT of our life.
Very soon, it became our HABIT.
See the pattern?? Now, many of us say it is so difficult to break free from a habit, especially those innate habits formed since childhood... But even the newly formed habits, what makes it so difficult to be changed or eliminted? Look below:
When we have a HABIT, especially those bad ones, we'd like to change/get rid of them.
However, there is always ABIT left no matter how hard we try...
We try harder, yet again BIT is still there underlying as a strong base of our behaviour.
Now u see why it is so difficult to remove a bad habit of a person, as well as how difficult it is to forge a good habit in us?
So, next time when u are thinking of doing something, remember that each action we do, it does leave its mark in us and will soon become our personal behaviour. Start a good habit today. As it takes double the effort to eliminate a bad habit to be replaced with a good one. :)
This is for pleasure reading. Written using the word habit itself is just to illustrate the picture and to avoid using too much of jargons...hehe...but its true our mind does remember our past actions and repeat it in our actions. No research has been done though, or probably they are somewhere out there just undiscovered by me. Anyhow, hope it has given some light to you in a way or another. ;)
Would also like to express my gratitude towards Dr. Phang Cheng Kar whom has enlighten me on this idea during his talk recently. :)
HABIT. A five letter word to illustrate a pattern of action done repeatedly until it became a behaviour done without concious attention or effort1,2,3. Some of the habits came naturally like the para-functional habits but there are also other habits which came through our constant similar method of doing things.
Since it is an act that become part of our behaviour, it may or may not require a long period of time to estabilsh a certain habit. Each time when we do something, a fraction of memory of way we did it will be stored in our cerebral cortex. When the same action is done repeatedly, it reinforces our brain to establish as the 'method' of doing the action. So after sometime, it became a habit.
Actually, the word habit is already self-describing. Did u notice the word is spelled as HABIT?
It forms from BIT of every repeated actions.
After a prolonged exposure, it became ABIT of our life.
Very soon, it became our HABIT.
See the pattern?? Now, many of us say it is so difficult to break free from a habit, especially those innate habits formed since childhood... But even the newly formed habits, what makes it so difficult to be changed or eliminted? Look below:
When we have a HABIT, especially those bad ones, we'd like to change/get rid of them.
However, there is always ABIT left no matter how hard we try...
We try harder, yet again BIT is still there underlying as a strong base of our behaviour.
Now u see why it is so difficult to remove a bad habit of a person, as well as how difficult it is to forge a good habit in us?
So, next time when u are thinking of doing something, remember that each action we do, it does leave its mark in us and will soon become our personal behaviour. Start a good habit today. As it takes double the effort to eliminate a bad habit to be replaced with a good one. :)
This is for pleasure reading. Written using the word habit itself is just to illustrate the picture and to avoid using too much of jargons...hehe...but its true our mind does remember our past actions and repeat it in our actions. No research has been done though, or probably they are somewhere out there just undiscovered by me. Anyhow, hope it has given some light to you in a way or another. ;)
Would also like to express my gratitude towards Dr. Phang Cheng Kar whom has enlighten me on this idea during his talk recently. :)
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
Realisation Part 5: Overjoyed :)
hohohoho...yay~~!!!...Gold medal for pharmacy table tennis team...yay~! hehe...so so happy we won the finals in IMU Cup on tuesday with a clean score of 3-0. Was not expecting at all for such clean winning...thanks to our female single player, our hero of the day...:) Semi-finals was the most exciting match with the Sem 3 medics, winning by a close 3-2 score. The stress when i was playing the mixed doubles was indescribable la, but the joy of winning the match was even more over-whelming! Never felt so victorious before la...all the effort put in for the trainings, sacrificing of personal time, study time, rest time, sleeping time, dinner time, and all the sweat and blood (hehe..exaggerating) are all worth it:)
How true is the saying, we reap what we sow :p
On another happy note on reaping what we sow (hehe), i just got back my biosci lab reports, and wow, it proves that all the sleepless days and nights and headaches struggling and rushing through the 4 super long reports (10 pages and above) are worthwhile too! Hehe..rewarded 24/25 and 22/25 for two of them, still waiting for the other two to be returned, but it's enough to make me happy :) (coz it's relatively higher than the rest >.< ) ;p
While enjoying the triumph of this week, i do realise the joy is not gonna last i.e impermanance, so i'm gonna enjoy it now, hehe:)
Tonight is the closing for the IMU Cup, have cheerleadings and prize giving ceremony...hehe...gonna have a great time tonight...yay, get to receive the first medal from IMU ;p
haha..there goes another day for studying :p
oh well, class test on monday and i have not studied for it!:p
How true is the saying, we reap what we sow :p
On another happy note on reaping what we sow (hehe), i just got back my biosci lab reports, and wow, it proves that all the sleepless days and nights and headaches struggling and rushing through the 4 super long reports (10 pages and above) are worthwhile too! Hehe..rewarded 24/25 and 22/25 for two of them, still waiting for the other two to be returned, but it's enough to make me happy :) (coz it's relatively higher than the rest >.< ) ;p
While enjoying the triumph of this week, i do realise the joy is not gonna last i.e impermanance, so i'm gonna enjoy it now, hehe:)
Tonight is the closing for the IMU Cup, have cheerleadings and prize giving ceremony...hehe...gonna have a great time tonight...yay, get to receive the first medal from IMU ;p
haha..there goes another day for studying :p
oh well, class test on monday and i have not studied for it!:p
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
Realisation Part 4 : Time
Time. There are many things to be said about time. We all have a fixed amount of 24 hours a day. Yet there are people who finds it too little and wants more time. Contradically, some said it's too much that they don't know what to do with the extra time.
Time. Time can also be a way to prove certain things. It can be used to prove how deep, strong and faithful is the love towards another person. Time also proves how determined a person is in achieving something. It shows a person's true character overtime.
Time. As abstract as it is, time can also be the best healer anyone could find in the entire universe. When there's nothing elses that could be done to make things better, very often we turn to time to heal themselves, especially when hurt comes into picture. Time offers no love nor hate, no praise nor critism, no judgement nor bias. It is neutral on its own. But it could give us peace and clarity.
Simple human, often clouded by these illusions of love, hate, praise, critism, judgement, bias and many other worldy and temperal thoughts and past experiences. And very often these illusions had fixed a stereotyping mindset towards many of the outlooks in life. This build up assumptions, most of the time, inaccurate and unfair assumptions. Why? Because time passes. Time never stay still but our assumptions do. Our life is in the present time, but others judge us base on our past. This is why it is so difficult for those who wants to change for the better but yet met with this indirect obstacle and in the end, an long anticipated positive results may just unknowingly became stale and negative outcome became the unwanted results.
When someone has turned to time for healing, it must have been too complicated to undone the tangle and more opinions and assumptions will only worsen the situation.
If only everyone put down their egos and their judgemental mindsets, wouldn't this world be so much nicer to live in? Dance like no one is looking. Living like no one is judging.
Jen=)
Be yourself, for those who mind do not matter, and those who matter, do not mind.
Time. Time can also be a way to prove certain things. It can be used to prove how deep, strong and faithful is the love towards another person. Time also proves how determined a person is in achieving something. It shows a person's true character overtime.
Time. As abstract as it is, time can also be the best healer anyone could find in the entire universe. When there's nothing elses that could be done to make things better, very often we turn to time to heal themselves, especially when hurt comes into picture. Time offers no love nor hate, no praise nor critism, no judgement nor bias. It is neutral on its own. But it could give us peace and clarity.
Simple human, often clouded by these illusions of love, hate, praise, critism, judgement, bias and many other worldy and temperal thoughts and past experiences. And very often these illusions had fixed a stereotyping mindset towards many of the outlooks in life. This build up assumptions, most of the time, inaccurate and unfair assumptions. Why? Because time passes. Time never stay still but our assumptions do. Our life is in the present time, but others judge us base on our past. This is why it is so difficult for those who wants to change for the better but yet met with this indirect obstacle and in the end, an long anticipated positive results may just unknowingly became stale and negative outcome became the unwanted results.
When someone has turned to time for healing, it must have been too complicated to undone the tangle and more opinions and assumptions will only worsen the situation.
If only everyone put down their egos and their judgemental mindsets, wouldn't this world be so much nicer to live in? Dance like no one is looking. Living like no one is judging.
Jen=)
Be yourself, for those who mind do not matter, and those who matter, do not mind.
Sunday, June 25, 2006
Realisation Part 3: When Sweeping The Floor Has A Theory Behind..
Well, after lazed enough during my semester holidays, i finally got the urge to write.
I was happily sweeping the floor this afternoon, trying to help out in house chores, when suddenly something struck my mind. I just realised the difference of sweeping the floor using a broom together with a dustpan compared to sweeping with just the broom itself.
Imagine yourself sweeping the floor.You have a dustpan with you. You tend to sweep and gather the dust in a small pile and sweep them into the dustpan u have with you. This action is repeated until u finish sweeping the whole house.
But what if you don't have a dustpan with you? Probability is that you'll continue sweeping and compiling the dust until u finish with the whole house ending at your back door.
If u try this out yourself in practical, you'll realised that it is so much easier to sweep with the company of a dustpan. As the dust were swept into the pan from time to time, u feel it's easier and less of burden to sweep the floor. Besides, it's cleaner that way because you don't have to keep track of so much dust flying around as you continue sweeping through the whole house.
So what is it that's so interesting about the theory behind the sweeping process?
In real life, the dust represents the problems and troubles we're facing in our daily life. And the broom, is us, while the sweeping process, is the way we handle our problems and troubles. As for the dustpan, it's any way of us to release the tension and stress caused by the problems. It could be by writing, sharing with someone, chatting or reading.
When a problem hit us directly in our face, sometimes it's unlikely to close one eye towards it and act as if nothing has happened. These life challenges are ineveitable and may be the cause of burden and constraint in us. Many would keep and keep and keep their problems deep down in their hearts and mind not knowing the importance of releasing them once in a while. At one point, when the burden got so heavy that they couldn't handle them anymore, their system break down.
If we had observed the theory of sweeping closely, we solve the problems in stages and once they're solved, we close the file and release (or even flush) them out of our system. Wouldn't our life be so much lighter that way? Everytime you face with a problem, you solve them in stages and release them in stages. Let go the past and hold no grudge, for every experiences you have gone through has made who you are today. Concentrate on the present. It's more energy savvy and 'cleaner' to your (mind and body) system this way.
So, that's my theory behind sweeping the floor. Hehe. Hope u have enjoyed reading :)
I was happily sweeping the floor this afternoon, trying to help out in house chores, when suddenly something struck my mind. I just realised the difference of sweeping the floor using a broom together with a dustpan compared to sweeping with just the broom itself.
Imagine yourself sweeping the floor.You have a dustpan with you. You tend to sweep and gather the dust in a small pile and sweep them into the dustpan u have with you. This action is repeated until u finish sweeping the whole house.
But what if you don't have a dustpan with you? Probability is that you'll continue sweeping and compiling the dust until u finish with the whole house ending at your back door.
If u try this out yourself in practical, you'll realised that it is so much easier to sweep with the company of a dustpan. As the dust were swept into the pan from time to time, u feel it's easier and less of burden to sweep the floor. Besides, it's cleaner that way because you don't have to keep track of so much dust flying around as you continue sweeping through the whole house.
So what is it that's so interesting about the theory behind the sweeping process?
In real life, the dust represents the problems and troubles we're facing in our daily life. And the broom, is us, while the sweeping process, is the way we handle our problems and troubles. As for the dustpan, it's any way of us to release the tension and stress caused by the problems. It could be by writing, sharing with someone, chatting or reading.
When a problem hit us directly in our face, sometimes it's unlikely to close one eye towards it and act as if nothing has happened. These life challenges are ineveitable and may be the cause of burden and constraint in us. Many would keep and keep and keep their problems deep down in their hearts and mind not knowing the importance of releasing them once in a while. At one point, when the burden got so heavy that they couldn't handle them anymore, their system break down.
If we had observed the theory of sweeping closely, we solve the problems in stages and once they're solved, we close the file and release (or even flush) them out of our system. Wouldn't our life be so much lighter that way? Everytime you face with a problem, you solve them in stages and release them in stages. Let go the past and hold no grudge, for every experiences you have gone through has made who you are today. Concentrate on the present. It's more energy savvy and 'cleaner' to your (mind and body) system this way.
So, that's my theory behind sweeping the floor. Hehe. Hope u have enjoyed reading :)
Wednesday, May 10, 2006
Realisation Part 3: Expectations
The higher the expectations, the further you strive.
The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment.
Which one are you?
The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment.
Which one are you?
Monday, April 17, 2006
Realisation Part 2 : Understanding
Have u ever put yourself in another person's shoes and try to feel the way he does? why he has acted the way he did?
If he is happy, we could fell the joy he is going through.
If he is sad, we could feel the grief he is in.
If he is in trouble, we could see from his point of view and understand his actions.
And just feel for him without affecting ourselves.
Just by being more mindful and aware of our surroundings and situation, not just ourselves, but the people close to us and people around us in general, we could bring two person closer and avoid many blames, misunderstandings and miscommunication. If the other person is having some difficulties and needed advice, we are be able to give suitable ones. We do not question much but can feel what a person is going through.
There's a story illustrating this.
A scenario of a child and mother. Mother, by nature are very protective and caring. Everyday the mother ask her child how's everything going on, whether we're happy or sad. The child, on the other hand shares only during happy times and whenever the child faces trouble, he keeps it to himself. When asked by the mother, he hesistated in telling. As time goes by, the child was irritated by his mother's questioning and treating it as a treat to his privacy. He feels sad everytime he has to dig out the sad moments to share with the mother. He stops sharing the happy nor the sad times. At the same time, the mother feels sad because the child no longer wants to share anything with her. A distant forms between them. Neither party is happy.
Based on this story, if only the child could put himself in his mother's shoes, he would know that she's just being caring about him, trying to understand her child's situation and see how she could help. However it seems, the more she helped, the worse the situation.
On the other hand, if only the mother could feel the pain the child is undergoing, she wouldn't have kept forcing the child to dig his own wound. She could have encouraged the child to be strong to accept whatever the challenge he's facing.
Read the unspoken. Read in between the lines. we'll undertand better about ourselves and the people around us.
If he is happy, we could fell the joy he is going through.
If he is sad, we could feel the grief he is in.
If he is in trouble, we could see from his point of view and understand his actions.
And just feel for him without affecting ourselves.
Just by being more mindful and aware of our surroundings and situation, not just ourselves, but the people close to us and people around us in general, we could bring two person closer and avoid many blames, misunderstandings and miscommunication. If the other person is having some difficulties and needed advice, we are be able to give suitable ones. We do not question much but can feel what a person is going through.
There's a story illustrating this.
A scenario of a child and mother. Mother, by nature are very protective and caring. Everyday the mother ask her child how's everything going on, whether we're happy or sad. The child, on the other hand shares only during happy times and whenever the child faces trouble, he keeps it to himself. When asked by the mother, he hesistated in telling. As time goes by, the child was irritated by his mother's questioning and treating it as a treat to his privacy. He feels sad everytime he has to dig out the sad moments to share with the mother. He stops sharing the happy nor the sad times. At the same time, the mother feels sad because the child no longer wants to share anything with her. A distant forms between them. Neither party is happy.
Based on this story, if only the child could put himself in his mother's shoes, he would know that she's just being caring about him, trying to understand her child's situation and see how she could help. However it seems, the more she helped, the worse the situation.
On the other hand, if only the mother could feel the pain the child is undergoing, she wouldn't have kept forcing the child to dig his own wound. She could have encouraged the child to be strong to accept whatever the challenge he's facing.
Read the unspoken. Read in between the lines. we'll undertand better about ourselves and the people around us.
Saturday, March 25, 2006
Realisation Part 1: Base
As we walk through the journey of life, often than not we may face with triumph and tribulance. If we can treat both just the same and always look around our surroundings, u may just realise, we are far more blessed than we think we are not.
a base is a place where we can put down all the masks and free to be our true selves. A place where we can be truly happy and peaceful. Family, a bunch of true friends, something that makes u feel good is a base. Once in a while, touching our base is like refreshing our whole body and mind to continue with our daily life. we all need a base to recharge ourselves...
a base is a place where we can put down all the masks and free to be our true selves. A place where we can be truly happy and peaceful. Family, a bunch of true friends, something that makes u feel good is a base. Once in a while, touching our base is like refreshing our whole body and mind to continue with our daily life. we all need a base to recharge ourselves...
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