Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Journey called Life... (Part 31: Helping Hands)

Arloo to all... time for my 31st part of the Journey called Life series...

Nah, I am not going to talk about helping people and why we should be doing it or things like that... I guess we all know that what goes around will come around. So we will reap what we sow.

There is a limit on the help that we can offer to others around us, whether they are family, friends or just plain strangers. There are 2 main reasons to this.

1. Dependence.
Well, the title says it all. When we gave too much of help to some people, they will get overdependent on our help and will not seek out their own ways to solve their problem in the future. Yes, I had seen too many of these kind of situations. Sometimes, it takes creativity on our side to determine the type of help that should be given to others. It's like the old saying, "Give a man a fish and he can eat for a day, teach a man to fish and he won't get hungry for the rest of his life." We shouldn't just give in to whatever requests that are forwarded to us. We give people what they need and not what they want. This will explain why I take an off-handed approach with certain requests.

2. Pride/Ego
This shall apply to people with impulsive need to help people like me (=p). There are times when your offer to help will be treated as sympathy to the other party, and this shall affect their self respect greatly. The line between just enough and too much is just too thin here, if persists, can destroy friendships as well. You will have to make your own judgement whether you had offered way too much of help or not.

I, for one, will want to make the world a better place to live in starting from the people who live around me, and helping people is one of the ways to achieve that goal. Look into the needs of the people that needs help. Most of the time, they only need someone to listen in to their problems and for someone to share their burden. There is really no need to go to great lengths and help them do everything for them. Yea, it's simple to just say it, but I know everyone have their own place in the world. Seek and ye shall find.

*Let's create a world full of LOVE~

Short Notes:
It's getting cold over here in my place. I think winter is coming despite Autumn had just begun it's reign. The leaves are starting to turn yellow...Yea, snow will come soon enough. Class had started, but I am just like how I had always been, sleeping in class... hehe... for some reason activities that don't require me to sit down there and listen to the lecturer and copy notes just seem more exciting to me... hmm... well, it's just me... hehe... Winter semester is coming.. Ganbatte to myself~ =p

*From now on, short notes on myself will appear as small prints at the end of posts. Enjoy=)


  1. what goes around, comes around.

  2. Hmm...to help or not to help? :P

    Anyway it's getting cold here as well...despite autumn having just started...but then sometimes the sun comes out and it's just nice :)

  3. haha..yup yup...and at night time it's best to snuggle up under the blanket and sleep..since it rains almost every night...=p

  4. *uh uh...
    over here (on another part of the world) is all warm, sunny and ablve all, hazy....